Research showed that difficult people are around us. We always live with the difficult partner around us, in schools, in the place of work, in the religious bodies, at home, in the environments, etc.
But the matter is how to live with them successfully. The 12 tips categorized under three major divisions: steps and actions, attitude and focus will open your eyes to the tricks to living with a difficult partner peacefully.
STEPS AND ACTIONS
- 1 STEPS AND ACTIONS
- 2 Learn to communicate properly
- 3 Consider win-win deals
- 4 Get to know the source of the issue
- 5 Think before you speak
- 6 ATTITUDE
- 7 Get to consider your partner’s personality traits
- 8 Argue wisely if at all
- 9 Stop mere assumptions without verifications
- 10 Honour and respect others
- 11 Avoid unnecessary avenge
- 12 FOCUS
- 13 Compromise a little or think otherwise
- 14 Feel good
- 15 Get to know when to leave
Learn to communicate properly
Good communication initiates good response. It solidifies unity and relationship that will last. You must create an environment with your partner where you can warmly discuss progress.
When your communication is warmly presented, the response tends to be positive. For example, if a husband learns how to friendly communicate with his wife, the employees learn how to communicate with bosses, etc., the response tends to be positive.
Research showed that constant conflict or misunderstanding between two parties: husbands and wives, employees and bosses, two friends, etc., are a result of poor communication.
Consider win-win deals
Win-win deals are 50-50 considerations where two entities overlap. For example, it is common and possible for two people to have different interests.
What you need to do is to consider the middle ground and make a compromise. You should not try to play smart by imposing yourself on your partner or by thinking that your ideas are of higher value than those of your partner.
Try to balance the situation so that he or she will not feel inferior and accept you.
Get to know the source of the issue
Everyone should understand that we live to adapt. It is not possible to live without stepping on each other toes, from which anger may trigger.
For example, if your wife is always observed with worries about an issue, you should pause for a while and consider what the problem is and how to solve it.
The reason why this is necessary is that you have to put yourself in your partner’s shoes and look at things from her or his perspective
Think before you speak
The time you think is a time that you create a space to interpret what can cause the problem between the two parties. The time you speak or give a response is a time to give reasonable feedback instead of fire for fire.
For example, if someone you loved offends you or does what annoys you, the first thing that came to your mind should not be said because it is not something best to solve the issue.
Instead, it will complicate the issue since it came from anger. What you should do is to be calm, and think deeply before you say anything.
By doing so, you will discover later that what you would have said wrongly will be controlled and what will bring solutions will be said later.
Get to consider your partner’s personality traits
If you can get to understand your partner’s personality traits, it will help your relationships with him or her.
If you think you know everything about him or her, you will later discover that you are disappointed in him or her. Try to manage the traits of your partner if you want to sustain relationships with the person.
Argue wisely if at all
Unnecessary arguments cause constant conflicts. To live with your partner peacefully, make sure you do away with unnecessary arguments leading to anger.
If you attempt to justify your errors or mistakes instead of accepting them and making amends, you cannot hold or sustain a relationship for a very long time.
If misunderstanding occurs, what matters is to evaluate the areas where you have made a mistake or contributed to issues, and then take a step to make reconciliation.
But if you always think that someone has offended you without thinking of your area, you will not reconcile.
No matter how small it is, both parties contribute to the conflict or misunderstanding that occurs and both parties must make moves for reconciliation.
Stop mere assumptions without verifications
If you want to handle your partner with peace and genuine mind, don’t place him or her on assumption that what he or she did is intentional. Many people do or say things they don’t know about.
When you verify the source and his or her reactions at times, you will discover that the person is innocent. The reason why a fight or argument arises is because of misinterpretation of your partner’s half’s expressions or actions.
From there, you take an offence ignorantly! The typical reaction to this misinterpretation is anger, rudeness, or disrespect.
Since actions bother you, you become to display anger, even openly. Before reactions, you are advised not to assume.
Before you feel bad or react to your interpretations of your partner’s actions, ask him or her to elucidate the actions he or she is exhibiting. This will solve the problem of your unconscious rage and fake madness.
Honour and respect others
To honour and respect means to be assertive in dealing with issues. For example, if a husband or a wife is assertive enough, he or she will exhibit confidence when he or she is handling different points of view.
An assertive spouse will show confidence while dealing with two or more different points of view. If both parties treat each other with respect, the issue will be solved with immediate effect.
If you want your partner to listen to your points genuinely, you will first handle him or her with honour. That step will blow the issue out of proportion.
When you show respect in handling the matters, you empower your partner to take their share of responsibility.
Avoid unnecessary avenge
Calmness and pureness of mind solve many issues. When issues happen, it is important to remain calm and not fight fire for fire with an angry partner. Many people have done this with their partners resulting in more uncooperative and long rifts.
On no account should you become disrespectful, rude, or angry? Learn to calm yourself down and communicate clearly.
The calmer you are, the quicker your partners’ anger will subside. Do not revenge or have the mind of revenge. Avoid the what-you-do-me-I-do-you attitude. You cannot sustain friendship or relationship that way.
Compromise a little or think otherwise
There may be other things going on in your partner’s life. Asking the questions or sometimes knowing what’s happening, you might not have the slightest clue at other times.
Compromise a little as you are not concerned about the anger of your partner. This will help you react and respond in a calmer and better way.
Most of the time, you may discover that your partner’s acts seem angry, insulting, rude or disrespectful. You should, upon all, show love and respect or acknowledge his or her feelings.
Make sure that your answer to such harsh behaviour is being understood, accepted, and cared for. Feel good at all times and acknowledge their hurtful feelings.
Get to know when to leave
After you have tried all you can do to calm your angry and aggressive partner down, you should think to leave quietly to avoid embarrassment.
Despite your efforts, if your partner’s anger, rudeness, or disrespect doesn’t end, it’s right for you to leave; that may cool his or her mind down at the moment. It might be a good time to walk away from things you can’t change.
Remember that when you commit to a relationship with your partner, you must accept him or her with all his or her flaws.
You can also strengthen your relationship by enduring his or her imperfections and working together to overcome them.